2.4 KiB
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She says she is sorry for not tuning into feelings earlier this morning
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Sees that I was trying to share something. That was upsetting me and didn’t give time it deserved
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She can try in the future to ask if I want to share my feelings and use the framework
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She was feeling defensive this morning because she didn’t feel like her answer was good enough
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I asked if there was room for my plate in the dish washer
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She answered no she didn’t see any
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I then said I saw some and it makes me feel unimportant or overlooked
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Made her feel badgered bc she already gave a full answer to question
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She moved things around in the dish washer and in sink so she thought it was full
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This whole interaction started by interrupting what she was doing at the sink
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When she let me know she needed to get back to and and that she was being interrupted I told her to watch her words and that I didnt interrupt her
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There was no attention given to words she was saying initially
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She had to walk it back to let me know when I came in her back was turned and
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She has asked to not have that happen
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She is getting very frustrated by mental load she carries for family
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She is constantly expected to be multitasking no matter what she is doing it is ok to come and pile more onto here
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It’s exhausting and upsetting
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Even in the mornings been standing in the kitchen when she is on the couch saying when she has a second can we talk. That is interrupting and halts her in what she is doing
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What we agreed on was waiting till she looks up or waving or talking
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Last few mornings this has not been done
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Need me and the kids to both respect when she is busy or otherwise occupied
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Lastly if I can please ask or say I need to speak plain to share feelings it would be very helpful as several things were hurtful and made her feel bad
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Telling her I am apologizing so that we don’t. Have to have a deeper conversation or that she is hooking her claws into something. Or she is vehemently pursuing something. When not just phrased I’m speaking plain is very hurtful
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She realize she could also ask but she didn’t
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Was feeling flustered and frustrated by way with convo about dishwasher went
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A lot of it could be avoided if I respected that you were doing. Something.
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ESP if deeper convo about feelings should have been asked for
#Christina