- [ ] She says she is sorry for not tuning into feelings earlier this morning
- [ ] Sees that I was trying to share something. That was upsetting me and didn’t give time it deserved
- [ ] She can try in the future to ask if I want to share my feelings and use the framework

- [ ] She was feeling defensive this morning because she didn’t feel like her answer was good enough
- [ ] I asked if there was room for my plate in the dish washer
- [ ] She answered no she didn’t see any
- [ ] I then said I saw some and it makes me feel unimportant or overlooked
- [ ] Made her feel badgered bc she already gave a full answer to question
- [ ] She moved things around in the dish washer and in sink so she thought it was full
- [ ] This whole interaction started by interrupting what she was doing at the sink
- [ ] When she let me know she needed to get back to and and that she was being interrupted I told her to watch her words and that I didnt interrupt her
- [ ] There was no attention given to words she was saying initially
- [ ] She had to walk it back to let me know when I came in her back was turned and
- [ ] She has asked to not have that happen
- [ ] She is getting very frustrated by mental load she carries for family
- [ ] She is constantly expected to be multitasking no matter what she is doing it is ok to come and pile more onto here
- [ ] It’s exhausting and upsetting
- [ ] Even in the mornings been standing in the kitchen when she is on the couch saying when she has a second can we talk. That is interrupting and halts her in what she is doing
- [ ] What we agreed on was waiting till she looks up or waving or talking
- [ ] Last few mornings this has not been done
- [ ] Need me and the kids to both respect when she is busy or otherwise occupied 
- [ ] Lastly if I can please ask or say I need to speak plain to share feelings it would be very helpful as several things were hurtful and made her feel bad
- [ ] Telling her I am apologizing so that we don’t. Have to have a deeper conversation or that she is hooking her claws into something. Or she is vehemently pursuing something. When not just phrased I’m speaking plain is very hurtful 
- [ ] She realize she could also ask but she didn’t 
- [ ] Was feeling flustered and frustrated by way with convo about dishwasher went
- [ ] A lot of it could be avoided if I respected that you were doing. Something. 
- [ ] ESP if deeper convo about feelings should have been asked for



#Christina