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#Mom Text 12/8/23
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The next time that you asked me to babysit Alice and Charlie and you put them in my care, I am assuming and I mean I am assuming that you are trusting me to look after them which means I am assuming that you and Christina both trust my judgment, that I will look after your children to the best of my abilities and not come stopping into the house and make the children feel like I have done something wrong or they have done something wrong that was totally fucked up. It made me feel about 2 inches big do not ever do that to me again Greg because I will not tolerate that or babysit for you again if that is the way you're going to treat me.
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I am dealing with enough shit in my life right now and to deal with that on top of it is the last thing I need right now thank you thank you for that
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I wanted to first explain that I’m using bullet points more for me to keep thoughts straight and make sure I am not missing anything in the below response.
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- [ ] You are right when you say that when we put the children in your care and going forward we can assume a level of trust is already established
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- [ ] In terms of stomping into the house I am sorry if I made you feel like that is what was happening
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- [ ] I noticed Alice was starting to get in the mood she usually gets in when over tired and quickly switched into the parenting style that she usually requires when she is like that
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- [ ] It was never my intention to make you feel 2 inches big and for that I am sorry
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- [ ] It is understood that if I were to treat you like how you felt I did yesterday that you aren’t going to stand for it and won’t babysit for us again.
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- [ ] The stuff that you are dealing with I am sorry that it is happening but it is outside this conversation and not a burden I am to assume. When you and I have a conversation about feeling. I would appreciate it to be kept in the bounds of what we are talking about which right now is the children. After this is concluded and if you would like to explain what is going on I would be more than happy to listen
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I feel like I have addressed your points in the message above so I would like to share my feeling on last night.
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- [ ] There is an implied level of trust we have with anyone who cares for our children.
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- [ ] With that trust there is also an understanding that we have expectations for the people caring for them
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- [ ] One of those being an agreed upon bedtime that we have set. We know the ins and outs of what happens when either of them goes over bedtime by 30-45 mins let alone almost 2 hours
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- [ ] I believe a conflict was initially identified leading up to you caring for the kids and Christina offered to find someone else as it clashed with your Christmas party and you could just enjoy your time there. You said no which I assumed meant you were going to be able to give our kids the best possible care
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- [ ] As you know, things with Alice from an early age have been interesting and unique (not unlike me when I was younger so you can empathize). When things don’t go a certain way for her or she stays up later than she is supposed to, the backlash can be seen as soon as that night and most definitely the next morning putting our entire family in disarray and feeling like shit from the way she treats every one of us.
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- [ ] I know you have seen glimpses of this so I am hoping you can understand why I put the utmost importance on things we want being done, actually happening as I love Alice very much and don’t think she likes going through it almost as much as we do |