2.4 KiB
- Feeling in a worse mental place than she was before I left for Texas
- Exhausted, hurt and sad
- Don’t feel like she gets the support she needs to fall apart
- Sunday she couldn’t breath and was offered no support to get the kids lunch and to get to curling
- Felt abandoned at dads when Alice was being a jerk and she realized I was awake and aware of what she was doing
- She was not ok mentally but she feels like she is always the default
- There was no conversation I just left and was unavailable
- Don’t feel like she can drop any burdens bc she doesn’t know if I will be there to pick them up
- She is angry and disappointed at how conversations went last time on Feb 2nd
- The framework was not followed she let me know she was angry and upset
- During that conversation and there was no acknowledgment of that
- I put my feelings and emotions into what she was sharing, I interrupted her and we’re saying things she asked for would not be an effective solution
- After she asked for what she thought would be a possible solution
She would have loved a few minutes to pull myself together but she feels if she doesn’t do things they don’t happen
Can solve not being the default by actually showing up
Doesn’t feel like she can miss anything or drop anything
I asked what possible solutions were and she let me know.
She had to ask multiple times. Her being persistent to actually feel like I would look into it and do it
Was very defeating and very negative
It really hurts when I say i don’t think it will work when I haven’t tried and we have the benefits to cover it
If it might help would have been great to not meet resistance and give it a try
Especially since I said months ago it was something I was going to do
Broaching subjects someone else has commented on
Wait a couple hours and then bring it up then
Do you have time to talk more about x then let them decide
No tips or tricks on how to handle sending her a message after she has been aggressive towards me or made me feel like crap
I need a min to collect myself can you step in or some other form of communication
Some phrase or something else that can be said to tap the other person in
If able message someone else to tap in or talk with Christina
Can tap in now or some other statement
Acknowledge what the other person has done (not used when Christina might be the one making me feel a certain way)