2.5 KiB
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Concerned by responses to her and how much she is at fault
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She is not my opponent she is meant to be my teammate
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Feeling defeated and exhausted
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Feel like no effort is acknowledged and negatives are brought up often
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Feeling beaten down by how her perceived failings are being brought an up in most of our convos
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Feel scared to make a mistake or have a miscommunication with me
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Need to feel kindness and grace when making a mistake
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Try to learn and grow with me but it is difficult when things can change so rapidly
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Feel like every thing can be. Fine and then the first sign of friction I get frustrated and she gets talked to crappily
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Tone body language and actual words that are hurtful when I’m frustrated
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Keep trying to move past it when I apologize but it continues to keep happening
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One example that she is hurt by was her forgetting to email about the stimara magnets
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From her perspectives she apologizes and offered a solution but it seemed nothing was good enough and she couldn’t stop getting “hit” with things she was doing wrong - hits keep on coming
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That convo felt verbally abusive
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I was berating her and no matter how much she apologized I kept bringing up things she was doing wrong
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She doesn’t feel safe to take the time and space to heal when it gets pointed out that she is distancing herself from me
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She does this to protect her mental health and show up for the kids
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She is still concerned for me and thinks it would be helpful to speak to a therapist or doctor because the way I spiral after a miscommunication or something triggers me is scary to her
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She feels scared by my reactions to her
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Ask about taking an audio recording when I am upset and not sure how hurtful I can be
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Hurts when I say I’m doing nothing for you in the middle of a conversation
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She doesn’t feel it’s fair to bring it up in a convo without first asking to share feelings or that there is something I want to talk about
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Things like why are we even together and I’m doing nothing for you will always be hurtful when said outside framework convo
The level I feel the frustration feels disproportionate to the actual thing
She can’t have her life fall apart for a week if she misses an opportunity to be curious
Shouldn’t lead to a week of crap as it’s always going to happen
It seems as soon as I’m frustrated she isn’t the partner anymore but an enemy