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Talking about July 8th and Friday Night

  • Small thing saying
    • Unfortunate how week turned out
      • Being tired
      • All things going on
      • Soccer games and practice
      • Groceries
      • Cast appointment
  • Wished acknowledged for how hard she works and what she does for our fam
    • Instead got defensive and commented on how
    • Really hard to talk to about anything
    • Think I look for what I do wrong and how Im being blamed
    • When asked if she remembered if I asked if I did anything she said no
  • Tried to let me know what I said made her feel blamed
  • Turned into what I didnt do wrong instead of listening

Asked her why she was slamming doors and she took for an opportunity to share

  • Used I feel statements
    • I used opportunity to deflect and said I was being villianized

Need to be able to share feelings and thoughts with me Think about her before responding how I feel Dont need to respond to how she is feeling just dont make it worse by deflecting

Would have liked encouragement or listen and understand how she feels Exhausted

Tired from kids during the week.

Friday night:

Standing at office doors Commented I know you and I know how you react when things dont go the way you want Seemed like I was referencing the call to the clinic

#Christina