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#Christina #Feelings - May 5 2023
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Felt really. Crappy yesterday interacting with me
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Few things brought to attention that I didn’t fully attend to
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One of them being mindful how things I saw come across as blaming her
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Eg you trailed off while talking
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Could just be could you repeat that for no blame
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You were talking too quietly
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Could just be I didn’t hear you
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Small changes that don’t make her feel blamed
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Second thing
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Need to stop saying I don’t believe it started out that way
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When bringing something to her attention that is upsetting
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Doesn’t matter how it started
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Trying to tell me an experience she is having
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At some point that deserves attention
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Just because things were fine earlier doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have the right to be upset about something later
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When I say that, it makes her feel like she is being bc blamed for what lead up to something happening
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Or that I’m arguing that it shouldn’t matter what happened because earlier in the day was good
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Overall, need me to stop and listen to what she is saying
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It shouldn’t just be in feelings conversations and the framework that it gets turned around on her
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I should be to talk to me and feel like I’m valuing and listening to the words I’m saying
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Really defeating she can’t bring something up to her
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Makes her think I’m disinterested and don’t value what she is saying