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#Christina #Feelings - April 17 2022
I feel like you think it’s ok to keep treating me like shit bc it keeps happening. If you thought it wasn’t ok you would stop doing it I assume.
Christina’s feelings
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I feel like shit
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Don’t want record of how your feeling right now
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Very frustrated
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Feeling really hurt with how today played out
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Don’t feel like you can trust me when I’m upset about something
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Feel like I can’t look past what my reaction is to tune into her feelings
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Eg. this afternoon with me needing to go to bathroom I explained away stuff instead of listening to her
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Not interested in how I think I acted or why I did it
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Was trying to share she was hurt bc of way she thought she was talked to
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Another eg. downstairs trying to follow up how she was feeling and I got hung up on how she said a thing
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Wanted to deflect and clear it up first
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Said she would take out assume and that is still the way she feels
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Putting phone in face and telling her repeatedly it’s a you statement not a feelings statement.
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She felt unimportant
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Apologizing and it still keeps happening
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Assuming if I apologize it would stop or reduce
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Hurtful to her about way I am hitting down notes - impersonal
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Asked if I can do something different as it’s been this way for a while
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Feel like she is a piece of trash that I can kick around
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Not worth my time to fix it
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Tried to bring up her feelings and first thought was to explain it away
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It’s frustrating that after a really good weekend and her being attentive to her needs
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She tries to tell me something she needs she got the response she did
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Even in a good place not able to tune in and listen to her feelings or respond
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Probably went differently if asked to use the framework
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If she is upset don’t ask her what’s wrong if I’m not ready to talk about feelings
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Could have let you know I need a minute before hearing her feelings
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How am I going to work at this so it doesn’t keep happening?
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Hurts when I respond with anger or agitation
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Can’t trust she can be vulnerable with her and I emotionally take care of her
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Can get really mean and assertive and it sucks
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Do I think the way I am acting today when looking up the I feel statements was acceptable?
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Sign for me:
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Ready to talk
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Not ready to talk
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Think there needs to be a convo about listening