- [ ] Feel sad at how negative the conversation in the car was towards her
- [ ] Feel like she is drowning with how negative I can see her
- [ ] No matter how much good she does she can be seen so negatively in an instant
- [ ] She is angry that she was interrupted when I asked if she was ok
- [ ] She was trying to answer in the context she was given 
- [ ] She feel disrespected by the response I gave her when she let me know she was just holding the handle
- [ ] No acknowledgement of what she said just the response - when I am going around a corner at a speed you would deem unacceptable
- [ ] She felt worthless and unloved in the car
- [ ] Anything that she brought up had another layer of what she didn’t do or done differently
- [ ] This morning her ask to have me listen felt unimportant 
- [ ] When I didn’t answer and instead asked my own question
- [ ] She feel criticized that she sent a text asking if she could talk
- [ ] She explained her reasoning and was given multiple reasons why that wasn’t ok
- [ ] Eg we have previously stated texts are interrupting 
- [ ] But no acknowledgment of what she was sharing with me
- [ ] During the conversation she asked again if I could listen now
- [ ] I said yes and continued on with things we were talking about
- [ ] Her asking if I could listen was an attempt to get back on track for the framework conversation she asked for twice
- [ ] She feels sad and blamed by the way I spoke to her this morning
- [ ] Feel unseen and unheard when I say I don’t know how the conversation got there but she started off by letting me know she felt criticized and no attention was given to that
- [ ] She was attempting to let me know how my words were affecting her
- [ ] And she gets the comment that I was already the schools punching bag and that I won’t be one in my own home
- [ ] This was confusing to her and she feels it was not related to our conversation
- [ ] This all leads to her feeling defeated and worthless 
- [ ] And then she has to pivot and show up for our kids
- [ ] It’s exhausting and an unfair expectation 

Action items 
- [ ] Take a second to breath and then try and see things from your perspective 
- [ ] If she asks if I can listen and I say yes then do that otherwise say after this convo is done or no