- [ ] She feels worthless by the way I talk to her when frustrated
- [ ] She is afraid to make small mistakes or have a miscommunication with me
- [ ] Cause of how the whole energy shifts 
- [ ] When I’m frustrated
- [ ] Instead of a productive conversation it becomes her getting blamed or me saying hurtful things
- [ ] Feel like she is only as good as her last mistake
- [ ] Feel like not matter how hard she tries or how much she does it gets obliterated at the slightest sign of frustration
- [ ] She is exhausted and defeated when things go from being totally fine between us to hostile and tense instantly 
- [ ] It felt terrible yesterday to have a panic attack and not be able to breath as a result of a conversation on where to sit on the couch
- [ ] It didn’t need to be that way I could have been kind, I could have not interrupted her and tried to figure it out with me
- [ ] There was no ill intent there seemed like just a difference of view points 
- [ ] She fully intended to sit with me
- [ ] Don’t know how it can go from good to shit in 4 seconds

- [ ] Thoughts and emotions are spiralling right now
- [ ] It feels like complete shit to not be worth the time or energy to clarify something with me before getting frustrated 
- [ ] Continued mistreatment by me when I’m frustrated 

Why couldn’t I be patient and wait to ask to sit with her

- [ ] Wanted to feel heard and seen from this conversation
- [ ] Didn’t sit with and try and understand it
- [ ] See what she was sharing with me

- [ ] Doesn’t mean there isn’t something she could improve on
- [ ] Sit wit  that and it be enough