- [ ] Explaining why she didn’t ask questions this morning and just assumed things when I wrote in discord
	- [ ] She was feeling anxious this morning
	- [ ] She was in her own head overthinking wanting to do the right thing to help me
	- [ ] She was anxious that she was bothering me and that I didn’t want to talk to her
	- [ ] So she was acknowledging my feelings in the format I set out without burdening me with her presence 
	- [ ] Yes I have said I would never be bothered by her asking. That doesn’t stop the swirling thoughts she has or the mental gymnastics of overthinking she does
	- [ ] She wishes I would stop saying it’s as simple as asking or that she would just be curious
	- [ ] For her it’s not always simple or easy or as obvious as it is to me
	- [ ] She doesn’t want to feel shame when she gets it wrong 
	- [ ] She understands it’s important and she wants to meet this need for me
	- [ ] Sure it’s only been two times and to her it was progress and she was proud of until today
	- [ ] It’s not that she sees the answer of oh be curious and then go left and do something else
	- [ ] That is one of 100 things swirling around in her brain in those moments when she is feeling anxious
	- [ ] Yes some of that is past trauma from me lashing out
	- [ ] She also is an over thinker by nature
	- [ ] I have mentioned this before asking a question and she comes up with an answer and then other answers after
	- [ ] Feels like always trying to be mentally over prepared 
	- [ ] She understands now and she will try her best when I write something in the discord chat, she will ask if I want to talk or if I am able to talk
	- [ ] This morning is new and she got in her head about it and got anxious 
- [ ] What yesterday afternoon felt like for you
	- [ ] She understand that I perceived the situation as urgent and I didn’t think to turn off the stove and needed to get your attention 
	- [ ] Sorry for snapping
	- [ ] Sorry for not listening 
	- [ ] She was trying to do multiple things down stairs 
	- [ ] Hearing me call her name multiple times was pulling her out of what she was trying to read down stairs and was frustrating bc I was interrupting something she was doing 
	- [ ] So she couldn’t get back upstairs and tend to dinner
	- [ ] We have previously agreed on not calling through the house multiple times and it was frustrating and disrespectful of her time
	- [ ] She had her arms full of Chromebook, papers and a stack of laundry
	- [ ] She was focusing on getting up the stairs without dropping or falling
	- [ ] When I popped up at the top of the stairs it startled her
	- [ ] It made her feel overwhelmed that she was being pulled in too many directions
	- [ ] She then went into the kitchen to see what was going on with the pasta
	- [ ] Still feeling overwhelmed and startled and then needed to navigate what my intentions were without asking
	- [ ] While she was visibly overstimulated breathing heavy trying to get her bearings
	- [ ] Felt disrespectful and her emotional needs were not being considered to get her feet under her
	- [ ] She is human and she is going to make mistakes, going to be short tempered and snap
	- [ ] She understands saying what the way she did was rude 
	- [ ] She felt extremely overburdened in that moment.


	Actions:
	- [ ] Look for you in the house to get your attention even if I perceive it’s an emergency
	- [ ] Try and give you more grace as you have asked before
	- [ ] Or. Just leave it be and let whatever was going to happen happen