#Christina #Feelings - May 5 2023

- [ ] Felt really. Crappy yesterday interacting with me
- [ ] Few things brought to attention that I didn’t fully attend to
- [ ] One of them being mindful how things I saw come across as blaming her
- [ ] Eg you trailed off while talking
- [ ] Could just be could you repeat that for no blame
- [ ] You were talking too quietly 
- [ ] Could just be I didn’t hear you
- [ ] Small changes that don’t make her feel blamed
- [ ] Second thing
- [ ] Need to stop saying I don’t believe it started out that way
- [ ] When bringing something to her attention that is upsetting
- [ ] Doesn’t matter how it started
- [ ] Trying to tell me an experience she is having
- [ ] At some point that deserves attention
- [ ] Just because things were fine earlier doesn’t mean that she doesn’t have the right to be upset about something later
- [ ] When I say that, it makes her feel like she is being bc blamed for what lead up to something happening
- [ ] Or that I’m arguing that it shouldn’t matter what happened because earlier in the day was good
- [ ] Overall, need me to stop and listen to what she is saying
- [ ] It shouldn’t just be in feelings conversations and the framework that it gets turned around on her
- [ ] I should be to talk to me and feel like I’m valuing and listening to the words I’m saying


- [ ] Really defeating she can’t bring something up to her
- [ ] Makes her think I’m disinterested and don’t value what she is saying