#Christina #Feelings - April 17 2022

I feel like you think it’s ok to keep treating me  like shit bc it keeps happening. If you thought it wasn’t ok you would stop doing it I assume.


 Christina’s feelings
- [ ] I feel like shit
- [ ] Don’t want record of how your feeling right now
- [ ] Very frustrated 
- [ ] Feeling really hurt with how today played out
- [ ] Don’t feel like you can trust me when I’m upset about something 
- [ ] Feel like I can’t look past what my reaction is to tune into her feelings 
- [ ] Eg. this afternoon with me needing to go to bathroom I explained away stuff instead of listening to her
- [ ] Not interested in how I think I acted or why I did it
- [ ] Was trying to share she was hurt bc of way she thought she was talked to
- [ ] Another eg. downstairs trying to follow up how she was feeling and I got hung up on how she said a thing
- [ ] Wanted to deflect and clear it up first
- [ ] Said she would take out assume and that is still the way she feels
- [ ] Putting phone in face and telling her repeatedly it’s a you statement not a feelings statement.
- [ ] She felt unimportant 
- [ ] Apologizing and it still keeps happening
- [ ] Assuming if I apologize it would stop or reduce

- [ ] Hurtful to her about way I am hitting down notes - impersonal
- [ ] Asked if I can do something different as it’s been this way for a while
- [ ] Feel like she is a piece of trash that I can kick around
- [ ] Not worth my time to fix it
- [ ] Tried to bring up her feelings and first thought was to explain it away

- [ ] It’s frustrating that after a really good weekend and her being attentive to her needs
- [ ] She tries to tell me something she needs she got the response she did
- [ ] Even in a good place not able to tune in and listen to her feelings or respond
- [ ] Probably went differently if asked to use the framework
- [ ] If she is upset don’t ask her what’s wrong if I’m not ready to talk about feelings

- [ ] Could have let you know I need a minute before hearing her feelings
- [ ] How am I going to work at this so it doesn’t keep happening?
- [ ] Hurts when I respond with anger or agitation
- [ ] Can’t trust she can be vulnerable with her and I emotionally take care of her
- [ ] Can get really mean and assertive and it sucks
- [ ] Do I think the way I am acting today when looking up the I feel statements was acceptable?


- [ ] Sign for me:
- [ ] Ready to talk
- [ ] Not ready to talk


- [ ] Think there needs to be a convo about listening