#Christina #Feelings -  Talk 5/16/24
- [ ] She would appreciate being able to ask questions without me blaming her
- [ ] From earlier today
- [ ] Sent points she thought pertinent to Alice’s doc apt
- [ ] Was following up on those points 
- [ ] In no way was blaming me just looking for information on Alice’s medical info
- [ ] Turned into her feeling blaming her by saying it wasn’t clear to me
- [ ] Don’t appreciate the me telling her I gave her all the info and I had no secrets in what I was telling her
- [ ] Doesn’t make me feel she can ask questions or follow up on questions that are important to know
- [ ] She feels there continues to be a lot of statements made that make her feel blamed
- [ ] For example today
- [ ] Asked about follow up from questionnaire right away I pulled out phone and said she wasn’t clear
- [ ] Feels like garbage trying to figure out information about Alice 
- [ ] I deflected saying she didn’t give any appreciation
- [ ] Leads her to feel like she can’t feel free to ask me about important medical appointments she wasn’t a part of 
- [ ] Another time feeling blamed today
- [ ] Me saying I was following an example she setup
- [ ] She felt frustrated and let me know she could look at the way she talked to Alice and she could let me know that she would appreciate me waiting giving time to apologize 
- [ ] She doesn’t feel I acknowledged what she said and saying i was following your example
- [ ] When she tried to bring it back to giving time and space I said she isn’t the main character and that she needed to back down and check how others are feeling
- [ ] I needed break if she wouldn’t acknowledge what I shared
- [ ] this leads to feel like what she brought up isn’t being addressed and then being blamed for why I did it and then being deflected on
- [ ] She feels she was trying to get back to original point that didn’t get addressed 
- [ ] Feels really frustrating and upsetting to try and talk to me 
- [ ] She wants to feel like I’m listening g to and trying to understand what I’m saying l to me
- [ ] She feels like things she says to me get misinterpreted and that I get defensive but all she is looking for is a little bit of understanding on how she is feeling