- [ ] She hasn’t learned these skills - she never will learn these skills and it’s a gap in your understanding - [ ] I am a grown man and I need to set myself up for success - rude af statement to make and shows a lack of understanding of what actually happens within me and makes me feel like shit - [ ] The difference between those two things is one is my child and one is my partner who I should be able to lean on - adhd doesn’t really differ between roles and an understanding should be universal but it’s good to know you have leeway for Alice and not your husband