- [ ] Upset that yesterday seemed to focus on her not using framework properly
- [ ] Take ownership that the comment was her opinion over feelings
- [ ] Asked for time and space for feeling to  share
- [ ] No judgement or expectation
- [ ] Asked to clarify when I was talking about and tried to replay the scenarios
- [ ] Used to turn around on her
- [ ] Not that she doesn’t want to hear opinion or feelings but wasn’t right time
- [ ] She asked first so listen
- [ ] Sucks that it escalated to me raising voice and she asked to lower voice
- [ ] Upsetting when matched voice to hers
- [ ] Upsetting to her how mean I can be when I’m upset
- [ ] Acknowledge that how I talk to her isn’t ok
- [ ] Hasn’t seen a change or improvement 
- [ ] But because of framework and breaks
- [ ] When framework isn’t used default is to lash out and attack her
- [ ] It’s not ok
- [ ] Trying to get across last night
- [ ] She didn’t care was meaning I didn’t have the right to treat her like crap
- [ ] I could choose to remove myself
- [ ] She isn’t going to use framework every time but not a pass to treat her like garbage 
- [ ] When I lash out like I do makes it so she doesn’t want to be around me
- [ ] Not much positives to pull from
- [ ] Already on empty
- [ ] Already don’t feel important 
- [ ] Don’t feel cherished or treasured like a life partner
- [ ] Nothing left to fill her back up and it sucks
- [ ] Makes it so she isn’t able to be the parent that she wants to be
- [ ] Has very real and negative consequences on mental health and self worth
- [ ] Want to know I have a plan to fix it
- [ ] Sorry isn’t good enough

- [ ] Hope I will be able to put some time and energy into it



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